Sex by deception: 2

This is part two looking at the issue of sex by deception. Part 1 looked at a court case involving a female who was prosecuted for engaging in sexual activity with another female who believed she was male. The post includes the judicial transcript for her appeal and some links to legal commentary. You may be surprised to find there are legal opinions that seek to abolish the offence, of obtaining sex by ”Gender Identity Fraud”. You can read that post here: 👇

Sex by deception: 1

This post looks at a short BBC documentary asking the question:

The interviews are mainly conducted with people who identify as ”transgender” although one female was interviewed who did not claim a transgender identity. The documentary also included a survey asking the same question to a wider population. They then presenting the findings to show responses split for age demographics.

You can watch the documentary, available for a further 11 months, here: 👇

Should I disclose?

The presenter introduces his trans-identified friends to canvas opinion. The question hinges on the idea of whether it is the business of a sexual partner, potential or actual, to know your biological sex. The Gender Recognition Act builds in certain privacy protections for those who hold a Gender Recognition Certificate and, it is argued by some, these, potentially extend, to anyone with a ”transgender” identity. However, as shown in the previous post, this does not extend to lying to intimate partners and doing so has resulted in successful prosecutions.

We first meet Maya who talks about hiding their identity from parents; leaving the house as a boy and, with the help of clothes and a wig, going to work as a ”girl”. They then talk about their fears about “transition”. The idea this is a life and death decision is often deployed on this topic.

Next up we hear from Noah who is in a same sex relationship with another female. Noah was the only girl in five siblings. Disclosure is theoretical for Noah as she was with her girlfriend before coming out. It’s still a worry about whether her girlfriend still thinks she is kissing “Nicola” not ”Noah”. Same sex attracted girls are, as already covered, over-represented in those identifying as ”male”.

Zac appears to be another same sex attracted female with a tell tale testosterone voice. Zac has had people leave ”him” because they wanted to be a Lesbian and who now is identifying as a heterosexual female. Like many of those interviewed Zac cannot predict the reactions of those he is ”getting” with, it could be a slap or a hug.

Harry is another same sex attracted female. Harry thinks you should disclose but the prospect is daunting. Even casual flings mean the person will have intimate information (I assume about your sex) about you.

Next Jax interviews Tyra who went viral, on TikTok for a post about not disclosing they were male on nights out. Tyra thinks it is nobody else’s business.

Tyra’s argument begins with the notion that they have had all the hormones and surgeries so, in their eyes, they have met the standard to regard themselves as a ”woman”.

Tyra says she is honest in their Tinder bio and when sexual intimacy is on the table but does not feel disclosure is required when kissing men on a night out. Tyra advances the safety argument for concealing this information. However, it is notable that trans-activists, also oppose any defence deployed when violence follows the discovery of deception about sex. This is known as a gay/trans panic defence and this is now outlawed in many states.

This is where the forced-teaming of gay with the T becomes problematic. In one of these there is no deceit and a man is using the ”gay panic” defence to legitimise homophobic violence. This may also be internalised homophobia if sexual activity has taken place, knowing this was a male. In neither case should violence be legitimised but only one of these involves deceit. The gay/trans panic defence is now outlawed in a number of U.S states.

I am not aware if these states, therefore, deny any redress for those who have been victims of sex by deception. It seems likely that sexual orientation and a free, and informed, choice about your sexual partner has been downgraded in favour of validation of a ”gender identity”.

Tyra is audibly frustrated by the notion that lying about your sex could be considered ”sexual assault” on being asked the question this is the response. 👇 Tyra puts this reaction to people being uneducated about ”trans” people and the problem is their expectations.

Jax then turns to a trans-identified male based in New York. They share a similar perspective to Tyra. They too have had ”all the surgeries” and feel they have left their ”trans” status behind. The arguments here are similar to those deployed by Alex Sharpe and other legal commentators in my previous blog. The argument goes, we all lie, about many things to get laid. Why single out biological sex when talking about having sex?

The documentary then reveals the result of a survey which reveals nearly 60% think you should disclose your ”trans” status/ your biological sex.

Split by age the figure was 61% thought you should disclose in the over 55’s but even in the younger demographic 41% said you should disclose. Only 18% were prepared to say you should hide the truth about your biological sex.

Jax then interviews Amy. Amy says she is open to dating anyone whether male, female, trans-identified etc. However she feels embarking on intimacy requires honesty. She also brings up the comfort of the sexual partner who needs to know what to expect. Nobody wants a six inch surprise when they are expecting Lesbian sex! Or to be told the vaginal sex which turns out to be with a “man”.

Kade takes a man home for sex and ”forgets” to tell him shes really a man. Realising she failed to be “honest” she reveals that he has actually just had sex with a man, irrespective of the vagina part.

Kade is dismissal of the response which is all about biology and puts it down to the man feeling discomfort about having a gay experience, with a woman!

Jay asks Kade the burning question.

Kade says the question is complicated. She then sighs and says she should not have to have a briefing every time she contemplates casual sex. If she had to give a yes or no answer it would be NO! Trans people should not feel obliges to tell the truth about their sex.

Gay men! Listen-up 😳🤔

Despite demanding we accept her self-redefinition of her own sex /sexuality she thinks it is perfectly acceptable to redefine someone else’s, and an entire demographic. Jax asks what Kade would say to her erstwhile sexual partner if she saw him again. Here was the reply. He is now GAY!

I honestly thought when females started identifying as gay men we would call a halt to the madness. I was wrong.

The BBC are grossly irresponsibly for not pointing out the illegality of some of the responses by the interviewees and I will be sending yet another complaint about their content. It is worth also pointing out that Stonewall want to ”reform” criminal justice in this area.

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